After many years in both the hairdressing industry and the healthcare sector, I became curious about the experiences and issues that people expressed in their everyday lives. I became intrigued as to how these impacted on both their personal and professional life in an ongoing fashion, quite often in a maladaptive way.( This from personal experience also)
The numerous stories shared by people over the years although very different had overlapping themes that drew me. I decided that if I was in a listening role that I already enjoyed, then why not learn the relevant skills that would allow me to indulge my passionate belief that everyone has the ability to make changes no matter their background.
I came from a very confusing background of divorce and, mixed messages and an aggressive and sometimes violent step-parent.
I grew ups with the need to keep the peace and intense dislike of any kind of confrontation as it took me straight back, unconsciously to those times in childhood where I had no control over events.
My personal relationships were a mix of good and bad. I regularly asked the question of why me?
I later learned that I allowed myself to be in what we call “victim mode” a lot of the time simply through a lack of self-awareness, personal boundaries and understanding of others. Hence my journey into learning new skills, so that I could give the assistance and the support required to help others make changes they want to their own lives.
I can’t change another person “situations” but I can help them get clarity and understanding to change their perspective, strengthen self-belief and create coping mechanisms. By giving the support to help them move forward to a place they would like to be. I think of myself as an “emotional sat-nav” for when others find themselves a bit lost. I can only show the options to the destination. The routes taken are yours